On Parting

I once believed I understood life, and now I’m right back where I started: sober, and miserable.

If parting was inevitable, then why do we meet?

  • When the inevitable decides to manifest there is no delaying, no asking why; the only options are acceptance and submission.
  • People tend to exhibit different attitudes when dealing with death. Some cry, while others get busy trying to avoid the situation all together; they never really do, they just seek comfort in trying. But then there is rationalization, that’s when the science talk kicks in: “Why is he breathing like that? That is what you call gasping, right? Is it the tumor or the heart failure?” Mam believe me, the more you defer facing the idea of death the more it will hurt when it finally descends.

Parting is inevitable, but still we met; let’s make the ride worthwhile.

  • Four days ago. He could barely move, but he came to the hospital, and he stayed by her bed in silence. When it was time to go, he kissed her on the forehead and whispered goodbye. “In God’s hands I leave you,” he said. Tears did not flow, although I wish they did, even when he saw her in her casket; is it because he doesn’t think this parting would be long lasting?
  • I’ve seen a fair share of last farewells in my life, but the hardest, most heart-rending were not those between friends, siblings, or parents and sons, they were those between lovers and their spouses. I believe this stems from our knowledge deep down that, unlike all the other relationships, this is the one person who, despite all the flaws, stayed in our lives by mutual choice.

Now check out this video, it’s got English subtitles. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Gd7wUGpofs

  • Is there anything which one, as an individual, can achieve but no one else could? What would it matter if Einstein didn’t like physics? Someone else would have discovered relativity anyway, probably at a time not so far from that of Einstein’s, possibly earlier. It’s not uncommon that scientists at different continents made similar and simultaneous discoveries, Google “multiple independent discovery” and see. On the individual level, life is a zero-sum game, rendered as such merely by being, from its very beginning, destined to end.
  • Our transit between wombs and graves, this seemingly endless meeting and parting (aka life), only one thing can help it make sense, which is the belief in afterlife. It is this, not the belief in butterfly effect, which would give meaning to a random act of kindness, or to a selfless sacrifice. As one thinks of life and death as different stages of a continuum, perspectives change, and lots of things shrink to their real sizes.
  • I think that, even on our dying beds, we never really accept our mortality 100 percent. If we did, we would be too busy to show up at funerals.


8 thoughts on “On Parting

  1. Ian T Ragoonanan January 7, 2015 / 12:00 am

    Without doubt you are a soul beyond your years…thank you for another brilliant perspective and only if the world would come to realize that the miracle of life essentially lie in the breathe…it is the source of life from the moment we come into this world with the first breathe to the moment we leave with our last- and yes the journey continues on just in another dimension so for sure agree with the take we are all travellers on the same journey some for a bit others shortlived ending in a instance… Hence the reason why that our time here should be spent cultivating love and peace cause In the end only LOVE HAS the ability to heal humanity and disperse all darkness✌️

  2. buzz January 7, 2015 / 12:06 am

    hi, belal. cool. thing is, we forgot we r 1 consciousness, all soul, comeing to experience this life in a body just to grow, create, meet, play. all these experiences r meant for us to remember that we r all one, not the body, but just love. we open up to that during life…some at once, some gradually. when we remember- we r free . we awaken to that truth. then, nothing matters, but to do good, observe others(aspects of ourselves)struggle, try help or just stay calm, knowing each one will reach that understanding in a different way and pace. so- we can relax and just enjoy the experience, knowing we continue living as a soul outside the body, in different dimensions/worlds…etc. no time exists, just one bid ‘now’ and all is possible, since we arranged for these things to happen in this time in a body.
    so- sorry for ur loss, keep that love of ur aunt alive by telling others about her, by acting like her, and help the family cope with the loss. try remember the best days with her, and she’ll be around u as a guiding soul, now. u can meet her when traveling out of body, each night or whenever u choose. a big hug for u. talk with ur little brothers about ur beloved aunt, tell about little things. show pictures. will keep u happy and her memory in their hearts. bye, x

  3. buzz January 7, 2015 / 12:30 am

    also check ”about” section of ur site here- left u 3 mails (July+September).u probably didn’t see them. so- now u can read and delete. thnx. be cool. u have support of so many who appreciate ur work, ur suffering, ur struggle. hope for better days, siege off , peace, real life for all. take care. x

  4. buzz January 7, 2015 / 12:34 am

    just saw, also wrote to u some remarks at bottom of article about ‘ban on Gilbert’.see there …and delete. x

  5. buzz January 7, 2015 / 12:45 am

    also wrote to u on the ‘reflections on 2014’. don’t u delete the remarks after reading? why? it should be done automatically. .. : ) have a cool year, u love winter.. hope no damage from the storm, to anyone/no one. thinking about the refugees in tents, schools, bombed houses. rterrible. hope they can warm the rooms, somehow,carefully. so sorry for the boys that died from that fire , days ago. take care. x

    • Jodi May 17, 2017 / 10:21 am

      This westibe makes things hella easy.

    • insure car or driver May 20, 2017 / 7:49 pm

      When I at first left a comment I clicked on the Notify me any time new comments are added checkbox and now each time a remark is added I get 4 emails with the exact same comment.

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